I used to think there’s nothing special with me. And I know many people who think this way.
Like in a group of people, I’ll probably be a mediocre, invisible person.
I wouldn’t be the smartest. Nor the friendliest. Not the kindest. Not the prettiest. Not the toughest. Not the strongest.
Everyone is better at me at everything.
My personality is bland compared to other people. That makes me just an average person. Nobody will pick me.
But when somebody does pick you, you are shocked, and go through the whole train of thought again.
Firstly, I want to make it clear that you don’t need anyone else “picking” you, but that’s not the point of today’s post.
The issue is how much you’re labelling yourself. Stuff that doesn’t need to label, you feel the need to label, because it gives you a less fleeting idea of yourself.
You set a fence for yourself so that anything beyond that fence has no need for you to explore, and it makes it easy for you to explain who you are to other people.
You want to label yourself and you want to put yourself on a spectrum within that label.
You just need to realize that humans are flexible and unpredictable, and that you can’t just define such a complex creature with a result from a personality test, or just about any rigid term.
You’re focusing so much on putting yourself in a mold instead of paying attention to your actions and intentions. You can’t just condense every facet of you into one word. Similarly, people don’t judge you by words, they judge you by your vibe, the practical things you do.
Why do you have to worry about unnecessary details like whether you’re the kindest?
Being kind is not about achieving “labels”. It’s about doing.
Spend time on your intentions and your actions, not labels that at the end of the day don’t mean anything but hollow, materialistic words.